Envy can often get the best of us, and I am one of those people that can’t help but feel jealous of the things that others have.
It could be those perfect long legs, hair that doesn’t frizz, a natural confidence that means someone can talk to strangers with ease.
In the blogging world, you have those that are brilliant at taking photos, styling them, have an eye for Instagram, can write witty, unique content. You have those that kill it on social media, have a stunning blog theme and can just slay on social media.
The thing is, we can’t control the cards we are dealt so we have to do our best to bloom where we are planted.
There are many things I am not good at. These are reflected in the type of people I follow on social media. I find motivation in those who have the qualities I am lacking.
- I’m a slow runner.
- I can’t lift heavy weights.
- I am easily distracted.
- I am not trendy or edgy.
- I’m not consistent with social media.
- I am not photogenic.
- I’m not great in social situations.
- I can’t get read of that stubborn bit of fat on my stomach.
- I’m awkward and say the wrong things at the wrong time.
- I am clumsy and oblivious to the world around me.
It’s important to remember that even if we are not where we want to be in life yet, it doesn’t mean we won’t get there. Our direction could even be diverted to a different path. If we were where we wanted to be, then we would have no goals, dreams or aspirations. There would be nothing to work towards and we would become a bit stale.
Yes, there are lots of things I want to work on, there are lots of things I dislike about myself and that frustrate me. But I also have some good qualities.
- I’m quite fit: I can ride 30 miles on the bike and run 10k pretty easily.
- I am consistent with blogging.
- I have built up a pretty good business.
- I am motivated and determined.
- I have a good work/life balance.
The problem is, I forget my good values and just focus on the bad. We all want to be our best selves, but we are not all the same.
We are not all born into the privilege of money/race/gender, or with a body naturally good at sports. We don’t all have a talent for singing or have the same level of intelligence to get us into medical school.
We can’t all be famous on Instagram and full-time bloggers.
All we can do is work with our strengths and work on our weaknesses.
What I mean to say, in short, is that you have to look at yourself in the mirror and measure your successes of today against the ones of yesterday, not against those of others.
Are you blooming where you are planted? Or daydreaming about being planted somewhere else?