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How to keep a positive mindset when everything is going wrong

Hi pals, how are you?

I’m fine, thanks. Wait, that’s a lie. I am not fine and I’m going to talk about it with you.

I’ve had a strange few months. After I moved house, I’ve been struggling to get into a routine with the gym. I was hit by food poisoning which landed me in A&E at 7 am one morning after a painful night of no sleep and blood coming out of places it shouldn’t be coming out of. I’ve had work stress, CIM assignment stress, problems with my car and then I went a bloody hurt my back, didn’t I!

All this has contributed to eating crap and drinking a little more than normal, even though I was supposed to quit alcohol altogether when I discovered how much better life is without alcohol!

All of the above has taken a bit off a toll on the old mental health and I’ve been having a fair few negative thoughts recently.

I would like to put a bit of emphasis on the fact that I do not have any mental health issues and this isn’t a post to magically cure those that need medical help. I have good and bad days like everyone else. I have had a few things happen to me all at once which has caused my mood to be lower than normal because of my situation.

How to keep a positive mindset when everything is going wrong

That photo is of me in the only position I could be in without being in pain in my back for a week or so. I look fed up because I was fed up.

I was fed up with being unable to move. I couldn’t work out which is a disaster for me because working out is very therapeutic – and even better for my body image. I felt like a potato. This is barely a month after having food poising that knocked me out for 5 days! I felt guilty about not exercises, about not being at work, about not being even able to use the time to do my assignment because the pain made it hard to concentrate.

There is one thing that helped me. And this thing helps me time and time again.

It’s like one of those universal truths that I try to remember when I am feeling low…

How to keep a positive mindset when everything is going wrong

This will pass.

Things will get better.

I’ll get through this.

It doesn’t matter which cliche I use – they all mean the same.

It won’t last forever, things will improve.

Life has it’s ups and downs and the downs can really test you. But they are only temporary.

You’ve got to think about what you can do to change your situation if you can. Change and work on those things that are within your control. Allow yourself the time to have a bit of a rant about it, and then break things down and see what actionable next steps you can put in place.

You just have to rely on time to fix the rest.

If a project is stressing you at work – remember that project has a deadlift and it will be over soon. The same goes for assignments, interviews, meetings you are dreading. Yes, it’s stressful but it’ll be over at some point. Focus on that.

If you hate your job and it’s making you miserable, see what you can do to change it. All these motivational tweets saying things like ‘quit your job and go chase your dream’ are fine but unrealistic. You can’t just quit your job. you can, however, apply for new jobs. Refresh your CV. Take a course if you don’t have all the skills you need. Whether it’s a day course in Exel or a longer one. Just the process of doing these things will help your mindset as you know you are taking steps to get out of a situation you aren’t happy with.

I c0uld write a million examples, but the point is most problems will have an expiry date. The things that are stressing you out today probably won’t even matter in a month. In a year, you won’t remember them.

This will pass. Things will get easier. YOU WILL get through this.

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5 Comments

  • Rowena

    Life can be challenging and how we weather and deal with those challenges will only serve to make us stronger and more resilient in the long run. A little positivity never hurts.

  • Ivana Split

    I hope you feel better soon. Being in pain makes everything harder, even concentrating and getting simple things done.
    You’re so right. Most things we stress about will pass and we won’t remember them in a couple of years.

  • Mica

    Sorry to hear things have been so rough for you! I hope that they improve soon and you are able to rest and recover. it’s true, things will pass, and that’s a good mantra to keep in mind during the tough times. Health is such a precious thing to have and we often don’t notice until it’s gone!

  • Panty Buns

    I know that position well. Lying on one’s side with knees bent or on the back with a pillow under the knees can sometime help, but muscle spasms in the lower back can be unbelievably and indescribably painful. I pray that your back heals up quickly, that you don’t have spinal problems (I do), and that you are covered by insurance for the right doctors and for MRIs.
    I love the teal top and horizontal striped leggings you were wearing in the outfit photo above.
    Even though you were lying there in pain on the couch you still looked fabulous!
    Hoping you are completely well soon! xx <3

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