Sometimes life can throw its challenges at us. When things get hard, those toxic thoughts can creep in and before we know it, we’ve talked ourself into an anxious mess that just wants to hideaway!
Toxic thoughts can follow us around and be crippling if we allow them to take control! Here are some common ones and how to overcome them:
I can’t do it.
Whether it’s a goal you’ve set yourself in a gym, a task your boss has given you or just something as simple as getting on a train on your own.
Telling yourself ‘I can’t do it’ is such a terrible thing to tell ourselves.
What we really need to think, is ‘I will be able to do this if/when..’ then set clear next steps in place.
I had my first piano lesson a couple of weeks ago. My piano teacher gave me a piece of music that was really hard. It’s this one if you’re interested. At first, I struggled so much! But eventually, I was able to break it down bar by bar and then was able to play it!
So, in short, you need to work at things, put in realistic goals and next steps then you can do almost anything!
I’ll never be as good as them.
Comparing yourself to others is a sure-fire way to make you feel crap about yourself.
Everyone starts at a different time, everyone has different abilities and everyone progresses at different rates.
You have to learn to focus on yourself and you measure your progress against yourself, not against others!
They don’t like me.
People have different personalities, views and tastes – it’s natural and not everyone is going to get on. You can’t please everyone and there probably are people in this world that dislike you for many reasons.
It could be because of your political views, because of your obsession with unicorns or maybe one day you didn’t see them in the street and they think you ignored them and are rude AF.
Focus on keeping the relationships strong with those that matter. As for everyone else – just be the best person you can be, live by your morals and if they still don’t like you, that’s their problem, not yours. Some people take a dislike to people for no reason or a silly reason!
As long as you know you are being honest, true and living by your values, then don’t worry what others are thinking of you!