I like to see myself as the type of person that is quite resilient. I generally don’t get too worked up when life doesn’t go my way. Don’t get me wrong, I do have those times when something happens to cause my blood to boil and makes me want to rage quit life. But I’ve been working on preventing that from happening.
There are times in the past when something has gotten to me so much that it has ruined my whole day or even week. That feeling of negativity that you can’t shake, it clouds over you and is visible to everyone around you. You’re less patient, more agitated, more cynical, uptight and basically turn into a massive dick.
I’d mostly feel like this at work when something would trigger me into anger. This happens mostly when I want to get something done but something gets in my way and I have to put that task to the side and deal with something else. It makes me angry, frustrated and snappy.
I don’t want to be that type of person. So I made an effort to change.
It’s so simple when you think about it. So simple to change your mindset and top being in a terrible mood. That connection just needs to click in your mind.
I just ask myself: if I am in a bad mood, what good does that do? Here’s the effect me being in a bad mood has:
- I hate everything.
- I feel miserable.
- I am snappy.
- I am rude.
- When people ask me questions I do not want to help them.
- When people talk to me I give short, one word replies so they’ll get the hint and leave me alone.
- I am not approachable.
- I am not treating people like I would like to be treated.
- I say things I should not in front of people I should not.
- I’m awkward on purpose to piss people off.
All these things lead me to feel even worse. I would just get angrier and also start to feel guilty for my behavior.
Once I worked out that me being in a bad mood leads to me doing things that would leave me feeling even worse, I simply changed it.
Let it go.
It’s a massive cliche, right? Let it go. Like water off a ducks back.
If something is frustrating you and this thing is out of your control, then you can either let it get you down or suck it up, buttercup.
You only make yourself miserable by staying in a negative state of mind. So remind yourself that it’s out of your control and figure out how to get past it.
Whether you need to take 5 minutes, breathe, listen to some upbeat music, go for a walk around the carpark – find a way to reset yourself. Because you are the person that suffers the most and do you want to spend the rest of the day feeling like this?
I find sometimes just smiling and having a conversation with someone can change my mood. Doing something to help someone or taking a step back and reminding myself that I have to live with this negativity for the rest of the day really helps.
It’s not always easy to shift your mindset like this, but it gets easier the more you do it.
So give it a try.