As a blogger, I often have to think about what I share with my audience. It’s not just bloggers that have to think about this, in a world where we are all on Snapchat, Instagram, and Facebook, you might find it useful to set yourself some rules about what you put on social media and what you keep to yourself.
But I’m being authentic!
No. I hate this argument for sharing everything and anything online. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking social media is fake so we need to bare everything to show how real we are. How it’s harmful to people to just show the sunshine and rainbows without the raw, nitty gritty.
Firstly, people aren’t idiots. We don’t think your hair is always perfect and your house is always tidy. That’s impossible.
Secondly, you don’t walk down the street telling everyone your problems. You don’t reply to daily ‘how are you?’ questions from your colleagues with a list of your life troubles. Right? You reserve these conversations for friends and family.
If you make the choice to share personal things, then that is your choice – but remember that you never know who is reading. People in your real life, your boss, friends, ex-boyfriends, aunts, complete strangers.
You might share something personal to share something you’ve learned or overcome in your life in order to raise awareness or give other people motivation and hope. Again, that is your choice but please do remember anyone could be reading and ask yourself if you are okay with that.
So here are some of the things I won’t share online.
Whether with a friend, family member or partner – do not post about arguments online. It might be tempting to release some steam by opening up your twitter app on your phone and having a massive rant about how much a bitch Sue is.
It only takes one person to screenshot it and send it to her and you can open a whole can of worms. Not only that, but you can really damage your personal integrity.
Negativity about work.
This is where things can get a bit more serious than just damaging your personal integrity – many companies have social media policies that can see you landed in a disciplinary meeting. This means talking about colleagues or about work itself.
As a general rule, I don’t talk about work at all. Other than things like I have a week off or day off.
Whatever my reason is for having a bad day, I’ll talk to my friends or boyfriend about it rather than talk about it on Facebook, here or Twitter. A picture of a glass of wine with a caption saying ‘well deserved after a hard day!’ is something I see as acceptable, but going into detail and getting graphics is just a bit.. embarrassing. I think.
My sex life.
I have a boyfriend and we live together. That’s about as much to do with my sex life that anyone is going to read on my blog or social media. I know many people believe that we should be more open about things and not feel embarrassed – but here’s the thing. I am not embarrassed. I believe there are some things that should be kept between you and your partner out of respect.
So there’s are my rules about what I will and will not share online. What are yours?