What I’ve lost and gained through blogging


Blogging can be intense. Though it doesn’t have to be.

The thing about blogging is that you can do what you want.

There are no right or wrong ways.

I mean, there are better ways to get certain results. But more followers, high traffic and getting lots of products for free and are not at the top of everyone’s agenda.

Like most things in life, the harder you try, the more hours you put in, the more you get out of it.


I think we agree that time is a massive barrier for us all.

If you start working on a new hobby, then another one has to get neglected.

With that in mind, I wanted to share the things I’ve lost and the things I’ve gained through blogging.

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Things I’ve lost through blogging.

Video games.

I have to admit my defeat here. As much as I try to play every so often, I struggle to get into a game unless I can commit most of my free time to it for a while until it’s complete.

With blogging, I can’t do that. As I have a stronger commitment to writing posts.

Although I still play Xbox from time to time, I struggle to follow story lines with such infrequent play so it loses it’s charm a little with me.

Playing the piano.

I had music lessons for years as a child. Exams and all. I wasn’t far from getting my teaching diploma for the keyboard before I went to university. After being away from the keyboard for a while, I bought a piano and started transferring my skills over. Piano and keyboard are pretty similar and I quickly taught myself a few songs.

Now my piano rests against my wardrobe, powerless.

Completing Netflix.

I was a massive box set junkie before blogging. I would get through a whole series quickly and I’m pretty confident that I would have completed Netflix by now if it wasn’t for blogging.

I sometimes do watch TV shows, but I always have my laptop on me so don’t pay full attention.

Since I’ve been in my new flat, I’ve been making a bit more effort to spend at least an hour before I go to bed watching TV without any computers around me so hopefully I can finish watching the TV shows I’ve started.

Like OITNB, Vampire Diaries, Pretty Little Liars, Hemlock Grove.

Chilling Out.

I guess you could class playing video games and watching TV shows are chilling out. But what I mean is being able to do something and not feel distracted.

To feel completely okay to sit and do nothing.

I could spend my day off just doing what I felt like. But now, I get that niggle in the back of my head that I should write a post, that I should check Twitter. No matter how up to date I am with blog posts, there’s always something more you could be doing.

Since I’ve started blogging, I’ve put a lot of guilt on myself to be doing something productive every minute of the day.

Things I’ve gained through blogging.


I have loads of people that I class as blogging friends. Those I see once every month or two at events and always speak to.

But then there are those that go beyond that. Those I talk to almost every day through text, those that I met through blogging but now class as real friends. The ones that help me move house, the ones that come to my birthday night out, the ones that invite me to their house, the ones that I meet with outside of blogging events. The ones I talk to about things other than blogging.

That’s special, is that.

I would never have met these people if it wasn’t for blogging and now they play such a massive part in my life.

A sense of purpose. 

It sounds stupid. But blogging gives me a sense of purpose.

I know I’ve said it before and I’ll probably say it again.

I’m only responsible for myself. I’m single, I have no children. I think blogging fills a void for me, it gives me a sense of doing something important. I get e-mails and Tweets from readers saying I’ve helped them with something. That they have found a post useful… it’s wonderful when that happens.


Being shortlisted for awards, doing talks in London, going to events, getting to try food and drink you would never have if it wasn’t for blogging.

Wow, blogging goes way beyond writing rubbish on the internet and hoping someone will read.

I never thought I’d go to events, I didn’t even know events happened until I had been blogging for about a year!

So as you can see, most of the things I’ve lost have been hobbies I’ve replaced with blogging. Whereas the things I’ve gained have been things that have real meaning to me. Things that have made me grow as a person, gain confidence and meet people and try things I would never have imagined.

It’s funny how this has gone from some secret online life to something very real indeed.

What have you lost and gained through blogging?

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  1. July 21, 2016 / 7:45 am

    I agree with you on the losing time to chill bit – I’m always thinking I could do something else with my time in those rare moments when both boys nap, but I’ll inevitably end up doing something blog related, haha! It’s good to have a little bit of ‘me time’ to blog but I agree sometimes you feel guilty for doing other things!
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  2. July 21, 2016 / 8:46 am

    When I started blogging (which was years ago), I felt that I had a different sense of purpose, too. I felt like I need to use my blog as a tool to spread goodvibes to everyone. 🙂 I’m happy that your blog posts are useful to your readers. That probably means you should keep posting more of your stories in your blog. 🙂

  3. July 21, 2016 / 8:53 am

    I found this blog I have a solution just do those other things you love and make a video about it and use what you say in the video for your blogs content that way you get the best of both worlds cheers.

  4. July 21, 2016 / 9:23 am

    Finding real friends it’s amazing, I’m so happy for you. xx

  5. July 21, 2016 / 3:00 pm

    Some of my other hobbies definitely had to take a sideline and I NEVER chill out haha but the sense of purpose I’ve gained makes up for all that!
    Amy xx
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  6. July 21, 2016 / 4:42 pm

    One of the most difficult things about blogging for me is allowing myself to lose chill and Netflix time—the ability to have that kind of dedication to prefer writing over those things 99% of the time is something that I truly admire about you! Blogging every day with a full time job? Seriously, wow. #bloggoals

  7. July 21, 2016 / 4:52 pm

    Blogging is worth it 🙂 I actually admire you for blogging regularly. I couldn’t do that lol
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  8. July 21, 2016 / 7:29 pm

    I totally agree with you! Since I have a blog it gives me a new purpose and I learned so much…but sometimes it is hard besides a fulltime job but it gives me energy too!
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  9. July 21, 2016 / 9:03 pm

    Love this post! It’s really got me thinking, because I’m not too sure what I’ve lost through blogging, if anything it’s given me a sense of purpose, and an idea that I’m spending my free time more productively, which in turn makes me feel like a more useful human being, like I’m doing something, even if it is just rambling on the internet. It’s pushed me out of my comfort zone, opened exciting doors and introduced me to some AMAZING people who I consider myself ridiculously lucky to be able to speak to on an hourly basis every friggin day. I still play a game or two here and there, I still read, I still watch a ridiculous amount of Netflix, I genuinely don’t feel like I’ve had to give anything up to blog, then again, I don’t post daily and run THREE blogs so you win right there!!

    Sarah 🙂
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  10. July 21, 2016 / 10:25 pm

    When you start something new, it is easier to lose something you do often. I never thought I’d spend too much time on the blog and it made me stop watching my favourite tv shows and stuff like that, but in the end it is fun to interact with others who share the same interest as me! x
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  11. July 21, 2016 / 11:00 pm

    I really want to make more friends blogging, right now I feel like I am sitting on the edge of all the bloggers just looking in at all the fun, I want to be in there and enjoying it lol. I love blogging though, I don’t want to go back to having free time lol!

    Erin || MakeErinOver

  12. July 22, 2016 / 12:13 am

    I agree! Blogging has its trade-offs. I would read and watch a lot more TV if I wasn’t a blogger, but I love the friends I’ve made and the opportunities blogging has given me 🙂
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  13. July 22, 2016 / 1:48 am

    There are definitely a number of pros and cons when it comes to blogging. I’ve lost some free time to it but I’ve also gained some great friendships that I wouldn’t trade for anything.
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  14. July 22, 2016 / 4:51 pm

    Gosh, I can totally relate to this. Especially the part about not being able to just sit and do nothing. As soon as I sit down I think I should be writing a post, scheduling tweets, posting on Instagram etc. But I’ve made great friends, I’ve had wonderful opportunities and I’ve developed something I’m really passionate about, something I’ve wanted to stick at. So I think it’s worth it! X

  15. July 27, 2016 / 11:20 am

    Great post, time is a big one and now I have even less. Opportunities and meeting new people is the biggest gain and new skills learnt Lucy x
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  16. July 27, 2016 / 3:59 pm

    As a new blogger this has given me some great insight – plus I love the format of your blog lovely!

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