Yesterday was the first day at my new job.
Some people are just naturals, aren’t they? You know the type that can say good morning to everyone and it’s just easy. Or those that can make small talk to the checkout girl at the supermarket? Well, I’m not like that. I’m the type of person that will take the long way around to avoid talking to someone in my direct ath. I’ll keep my head down, I’ll pretend to be on my phone, I’ll do anything to make it easy for me to keep to myself. Because it just feels uncomfortable for me.
It takes me a while to be able to be myself with people. That’s because myself is a bit, odd. I have an odd sense of humour and I’m rubbish at the typical conversational topics, like movies, TV and celebrities because I don’t really care about that stuff.
When I’ve gotten past that awkward stage, I’m okay. I feel like I need to ease people into me. That’s an interesting sentence, isn’t it?
Well, I’ve made a commitment to myself that during my first two weeks at work, I’m going to make a real effort to step out of my comfort zone and talk to people. I think after I’ve done this for two weeks, it’ll just be natural. Rather then going in with my head down and it taking weeks or even months for me to show the real me.
While I want to be seen as a professional, level minded leader, I also want my new work colleagues to see that I’m fun to be around, I have a sense of humour and I’m an open and honest person that people can come and talk to when they have problems.
So here’s my commitments.
Yes, that’s right. While I’m working around my new shop, I’m going to be saying hello, good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Even if it hurts.
I’m going to do a total Philomena Cunk and be like ‘hello who are you’. Well maybe not exactly like that, but I’m going to make an effort to go up to people and ask who they are, how long they’ve been working there and whatever else. It’s going to be so awkward. I need more ice breaker questions. I’ll think of some.
I know this store I’m going to go to is going to be tougher than my old store. It’s an old shop and has it’s challenges and I’m going to find it hard. But I want to be seen a positive person so I’m going to work really hard on portraying myself as positive.
I’m going to smile, laugh and try to avoid criticising things or comparing things to my old store.
If I find myself in a situation where people are gossiping around me, I’m going to do my best to remove myself from the situation because I 100% do not want to be part of that type of culture.
Use my extended network.
There’s going to be days were I’m going to feel stressed out, feel unhappy and need to rant. I’m going to make sure I keep in touch with people from my old store and talk to them about issues I’m having. I’ll be using them to keep me level headed and grounded throughout my challenges. Because although it’s great to have people I can trust inside my new store, I’m going to need people that I know I can say whatever I want to and not have to censor myself.
Ask for help.
This is something I struggle with a lot. I pride myself on being good at work and self sufficient and if I can’t do something, or I’m running out of time, I put extra pressure on myself simply because I don’t ask for help.
Have time for people.
It can be difficult when I have a lot to do. If someone asks me something or wants me to do something, it can make me feel stressed out because it’s taking me away from the task I’m in the middle of doing. I want to be able to keep calm and make time for my staff when they need me so that they’ll see me as an open, helpful manager that they can ask questions to.
Be conscious of my body language.
This is all down to confidence. I want to appear confident and open. So when I’m talking to people, make sure I’m not appearing all frightened and scared, even if that’s what I feel on the inside. When I’m walking about, do so with confidence.
Okay, I think that’s enough commitments for now. I’m properly frightened.
Do you have any tips on how to make a great first impression?