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The Daily Struggles of a Single women in her Late 20’s

Being single can be a lot of fun, it’s kind of like when you first leave home and you have surge of independence and freedom. You’ll…


struggles of single women

Being single can be a lot of fun, it’s kind of like when you first leave home and you have surge of independence and freedom. You’ll all feisty and young and HELLO WORLD HERE I AM ALL BRAVE AND STRONG AND LOOKING AFTER MYSELF IN THIS BIG BAD WORLD.

I can make plans with who I want, when I want. I don’t have to worry about what to buy him for Christmas, or if I’ll hate his Mum. I can stay up until 3am on a Saturday night drinking wine and playing video games if that’s what I feel like doing. Or I can go out with some girlfriends, drink wine until there’s no tomorrow, bitch about men with them and flirt with complete strangers with zero guilt.

I’m alone to do what I want. With nobody to check in with. With nobody to steal the duvet or keep me awake snoring. There’s no silly arguments, there’s no having to watch stupid Star Wars movies because their his favourite..

Yes, being single certainly does come with it’s perks, but as with most things in life, there’s a downside too.

struggles of single women

  • Having to build flat pack furniture yourself only for it to collapse a month later.
  • Being worried about having to attend your nieces wedding next year as The Single Aunt.
  • First dates – always TERRIFYING and awkward.
  • Catfish.
  • You don’t wake up to ‘Good morning’ text messages when you’re on holiday. Or any day. Apart from you work’s Whatsapp group chat, which is then closely followed by a list of KPIs.
  • When work colleagues want to try and set you up, like you need help finding someone to date, Which you totally do. But FUCK YOU.
  • When you bump into an old friend and they ask if you have a boyfriend…
  • You feel the need to say things like ‘I’m wayyyy to independent to have a boyfriend’. Just to feel better about your life.
  • Having to listen to your coupled-up friends talk about how nice it must be to be single
  • You have to act all cool and okay with your coupled-up friends PDA.
  • The only people that buy you presents on your birthday and at Christmas are your parents.
  • But you still get to listen to your coupled-up friends talk about what they’ve got their SO for Christmas.
  • You have to rent a house because you can’t afford a mortgage on your own.
  • Having to rent a house which means you can’t even get a CAT to make you feel less lonely.
  • You start Googling how likely it is to get pregnant in your 40’s.. HELP I’M RUNNING OUT OF TIME.
  • Having an amazing time out with friends, only to come home alone to that empty house feeling and be like ‘oh, so, that’s that then’.
  • The fear of dying alone.
  • Being a cat lady with no cat.

Are you single or couple up? What are your daily struggles?

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  1. It totally sucks not being able to afford somewhere on ones own. Im not even asking to buy only to rent, but even that’s impossible with just one income coming in! Great post C! xx

  2. Haha! I’m in my mid-twenties and I’m single.
    I’m okay with it. Yeah alright I miss getting cuddles but I love the freedom!

    Jenn | Jennifer Jayne

  3. Married and living with two kids; one if 19 months old and the other 47 years old….there are good days and then there are days I want to open a bottle of wine at 8am.

  4. I certainly felt like that at times when I was single, but once you meet someone it doesn’t all of a sudden all get simpler – that’s what films would have us believe but there’s a lot of compromising to be done. Hope you meet someone fab in 2016!

  5. Morning texts are nice but it would also be nice if my boyfriend would close the door when doing his business in the morning. I really miss not having to hear someone use the restroom when I first wake up in the morning!

  6. Even tho being single is tempting, it is good to have someone in your life. After a few failure, I am happily in a relationship. We have been in a long distance relationship for the last two years, which is kinda like being single however in this kind of situations, you learn how to trust someone(having trust issues suck). You don’t know what the next day will bring, you might bump into someone then everything might change, so stay positive and enjoy your single days till you find the Mr. Right!

  7. Single here! The renting thing is a pain, my place is alright price wise but that’s probably because I’ve been in bigger hotel rooms. Couldn’t afford a decent sized place in a safe area alone. And my bed gets so cold in the middle of winter too (not in a sexy way, in a I could literally do with some body heat in here).

    Parties full of couples are the worst though. My sister and all her friends are paired up, I lasted a whole two hours at that party before it was waaaay too awkward to be okay.

  8. I’m married now but I was single from 22-28- it felt LOOOOOOONG and I felt so much of what you said! It’s still a miracle I met my husband and HE ACTUALLY LIKED ME! I am an awkward idiot, shy, awkward, chaotic, etc and a teacher in a school that had no men. I cannot flirt to save my life and I spent all my time trying to act like I didn’t fancy anyone just in case they didn’t like me back and it was awkward. Luckily, being a musician, I met him by chance and he was single.

    I HATED couply sympathy. When I was 27, somehow,I ended up going to someone else’s party on my own birthday because I hadn’t managed to get anything organised and I saw this idiot who used to be in my orchestra (he was always a bit of a weasel) and he was there with his new wife and their 6-month baby and after I’d been asking about him and him telling me all about it, he said in a really patronizing manner, “And do you have a gentleman on the scene?” (it was SOMETHING like that but much more punchworthy) and when I said, “No.” in a matter of fact way, he said, “Oooooooooooh, don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll find someone soon.”. I swear, I could have happily punched him there and then!

  9. I actually met my husband as a teenager so I was never single during my 20’s but I do recall some of my single girlfriends having similar sorts of struggles. The worst thing I deal with is whether my husband wil snore each night so I guess I really don’t have much to complain about.

  10. I really enjoyed reading this! I’ve been in a happy relationship for almost four years now. I didn’t expect it to last that long because it started out rather randomly. However, we still don’t live together and I can understand some of your struggles. But anyway, you’re still young enough to not worry about dying alone 😉 So try and focus on the positives of being single and enjoy it! Love might hit you sooner than you think…

  11. Unfortunately I know of your struggles only too well as I’ve just come out of a relationship and I’m still trying to find my feet (even though it was a pretty short-lived relationship). I just wish the pity wouldn’t be a part of it. I often think “I’m actually okay being single, I have a great job and I’m super independent and can do what I like”, but the pity just brings up that void that I hate feeling.
    From one single woman to another though, this phase in your life will make you grow stronger and more independent and when you’re ready, that guy will turn up!

  12. Haha I love this post, especially the last one “being a cat lady with no cat.” That is so me. I am not allowed cats at my place thanks to renting so my cats live at my parents house. I definitely feel the lonely aspect of being single, and pretty much everything else in this post, but I have to admit that the older I get the more I learn to appreciate the bright side of being single.

  13. I’m single. I don’t have a daily struggle, but one older friend did tell me that I should have a baby by the time I’m 30.. Well I won’t make that now, will I? It takes years to build a relationship, and then make a baby. I have only a few years left. Shucks.

  14. being in a relationship’s great but so is being single. i think it’s more important to focus on the up sides and the positives! after all, nothing lasts forever. one day you’re single, the next you’re not… and vice versa. life’s a wheel! LOL.

  15. I’m coupled up and daily struggles include snoring, socks and farts. It’s glam. I’m a pro flatpacker though if you need a hand, the husband gets naked and sweaty and abandons it half way through. The first bit of that sounds like a come on, it’s not. Although you’re clearly very lovely and a hoot. Awks.
    I reckon I could handle single…although I’d never get a rental that the dogs can come in and that would be a problem.
    M x

  16. I totally agree with the first few paragraphs, and then I agree with the cons too… I’ve been single for a year after coming out of a long relationship and I’m bored now. I miss always having someone to talk to or someone to get cuddles from. And going out. Like to the cinema or for a simple meal. Man, I just need a life haha!

  17. I sometimes think it’s a case of the grass is always greener! Haha. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years now. We live together, we have a cat together, and we’re now trying for a baby. But I often daydream about single life. I miss staying up till whenever I want without being moaned at when I do eventually come to bed. I miss not having to compromise on my space. Now it’s ours. I miss being a me, now it’s we. I love my life, and my partner. But that doesn’t stop me wondering what being single again would be like. Were I single now, I’d enjoy it because it doesn’t last forever. And there are so many great things about being in a relationship, and I’d never give it up, but you’ll always miss singledom a little too, I think. I hope I made some sense… x x

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