I went through that whole ‘I’m in my 20’s and should buy sensible things now and fit in’ phase years ago, and now I’m in my ‘OH NO I’M ALMOST 30 MUST KEEP HOLD OF MY YOUTH’ phase.
I’ve found that as I’ve gotten older, I’m striving much more to find individuality and embrace those things unique about me, rather than try to blend in and be accepted like in my teens and early 20’s.
When I think back at how much I stifled my personality when I was younger just to be liked by idiots who now mean nothing to me, I get a little sad. If I had just done what made me happy from the start, I would have been a lot happier during my awkward year – yet it’s hard to not let what others think get to you, or be paranoid about what people say behind your back.
I was totally the kid that felt I had to get people to accept me by being like them – I spent far too long trying to imitate my friends, trying to have handwriting like them, circle my i’s instead of dot them, write the letter a the posh way like everyone else, beg my mum for Rockport boots because everyone else had them..
I remember going home and spending hours playing with makeup, with the idea that I could re-invent myself by going to school looking different, prettier, more mature, to try and comply with what others thought was attractive.
You know, like how it works in the movies. When an ugly, unpopular girl is given a make-over and then everyone loves her?
Well, that’s how I imagined it to be.
Back to reality, I realised they would probably just laugh at me, that’s if they even noticed!
There are several ways you can stand out and be yourself, a big way is how you look and dress – I’m not the type of person to go all out, but I find one item that makes a bit of a statement, or screams for attention does the trick for me. Be that a statement necklace, bright shoes, a bold tee, or a bag, like the ones below.
I came across some Vivienne Westwood bags and amongst the sensible black and brown ones – typical to the ones I usually buy, were a bunch of funky ones.
A kitten on a bag, BAMBIE? A care bear, a bag shaped like a monster? I can’t think of a better way to say HEY I’M HERE AND I’M DIFFERENT!
Did you try to fit in when you were younger? How you keep yourself unique?