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#OOTD // So, you think you’d have it figured out by now…

Dress: ASOS Belt: c/o OASAP Shoes: ASOS I know I wore this belt in my last OOTD, but what can I say? I love it. I…

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Dress: ASOS
Belt: c/o OASAP
Shoes: ASOS

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I know I wore this belt in my last OOTD, but what can I say? I love it.

I do apologise for the crease in the skirt of the dress. I’m terrible at being an adult.

Speaking being an adult, remember being a kid and looking at people in their 20’s and thinking how old they looked?

Even when I was in year 7 at school, from my 11 year old point of view, those 16 year olds who were doing their GSCE’s looked so tall and mature. They seemed like fully grown humans. Now when I look at a 16 year old, I see a child.

I’m 30 next year and all that maturity I thought I’d feel by now, the feeling of having everything figured out and being settled, it’s just not there. I still feel like a child wondering what I want to be when I’m older.

I’m increasingly fearful that while I’m dicking about here, still thinking I’m growing up and have all the bloody time the world, I’m actually already grown up.

And before I know it I’ll be looking backwards. Wondering why I wasted so much time trying to get where I want to be. Where ever that may be.

What if I never get there?

I can’t be the only one that feels like they’re years behind in their life, can I?

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52 comments

  1. I’m 18 & studying (read: struggling) through my A-levels, with plans to go to university in September… and I feel exactly the same way! I thought by 18 I’d have my life figured out and know exactly what I plan to do for the next few years… but to be honest other than moving away SOMEWHERE, I haven’t the foggiest what I’m going to be doing when I feel like I should know! It’s slightly terrifying!
    Olivia x
    sunshineinadress.blogspot.com

    1. I wish had more of an idea of what I wanted to do when I was 18. I would have studied something different at uni!

  2. So we aren’t the only awful adults as well? LOL We thought we would have our life together by now but we feel like we are lost, being an adult is not fun like we thought when we were kids haha.

    Btw, you don’t look like your are almost 30. Love this look that skirt is so cute!! 🙂

    http://floralsandsmiles.blogspot.ca/
    twitter.com/floralandsmiles

  3. I’m 34, have two kids and run a business and I still don’t have a clue what I’m doing! I’m pretty sure no one ever really does 🙂

  4. haha, apparently when i was wee i said that people were adults when they were 12, haha:’) but lately i’ve really come to realize that you don’t have to have your shit together in your 20s, possibly not even in your 30s. maybe no-one ever figures their life out, really.. also, i recently read about when famous authors had their breakthroughs and it mostly happened in their 40s, so clearly we don’t have to have it all figured yet whatever it is we’re doing:-) anyway, that belt really is pretty and makes me want to wear belts more often! xx

  5. Totally understand what you mean about the age thing. I am 27 and I just feel like my life is just not where I “expected” it to be. I mean I thought I would be married with children , own a house and be in a career I actually enjoy when I am actually the total opposite. :/

    Love the dress by the way. xox

  6. I feel years behind too. I’ve just got engaged and my fiance and I are saving for a house and we have almost nothing saved so far yet my friends have already bought their own, already saved a tonne. Feeling rather behind with the whole saving and mortgage malarkey!
    On a brighter note, this dress is gorgeous and once again you have legs to die for!
    Victoria xx
    thedaisyjaynes.com

  7. I think we all have feelings like those sometimes!! I’m 27 and panic about 30 and always need to remind myself to just live in the moment and that age is just a number.

    On another note, your dress is adorable!

    lovejoanna.com

  8. I’m 17 and whenever I look at someone who’s 13 I’m just like OHH KIDDO haha. But when I was 13 by myself, I felt like I’m a big kid, Funny. I feel like I’m stuck in some place and I ain’t going anywhere and it’s the worst, I’ve no clue.

  9. I think we all go through this phase when we are approaching the big ol’ 3-0. I remembered asking myself the same question and having the same worries as you but now that I am way into my 30’s, I couldn’t care less anymore. I guess I found my place in the world or so to speak or I just couldn’t give an arse about anything and just enjoy my days.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

  10. Being in college, I kind of understand the whole “being an adult but not feeling like it” feeling. I’m supposed to be working on my own and learning how to function as a productive human in the world, but I don’t feel ready for it. I feel like I’m stuck in this weird in between world where I’m an adult but still not really…

  11. I do get panicky when I think about the past, present and future too much. Thoughts about where I thought I’d be by now and bumming myself out when I realise I’m no where near what I expected. I just try to turn it round into a positive and actually take stock of how far I’ve come and what I’ve achieved in the last 10 years (since I was 16).
    Truth is though, if we all knew what we were doing in life and it all planned out exactly how we pictured – I reckon it’d be pretty dull.

    Gem x

    http://amilliongingerisms.wordpress.com

  12. I know how you feel, two more years to the big 30 and I honestly thought by now I would be the definition of a ‘grown up’. I love my life, I love who I share it with and where it’s going, but 10 years ago I would never have pictured myself right here, right now! Fact is, where we are is where we’re suppose to be, and if there’s something we want to do or try, well, we just damn well have to go out there and do it – but it’s took me a VERY long time to realise this…and now you’re making me get all deep and want to rumble more, but that could just be the wine. I might have to blog this!

    Damn you Corinne!

    Sarah 🙂
    Saloca in Wonderland

  13. Beautiful dress and I love the belt. I am not sure we ever have everything figured out. I think when you are younger you think when you are an adult you will but I don’t you spend your life growing and changing. I feel like my 16 year old self trapped in an adults body. Why grow up, just be an adult who grows up disgracefully Lucy x

  14. Corinne Well, I have 36 and believe me not feel my life this resolved, growing up is complicated, especially when things do not happen like you the plan, Lennon is a phrase that always comes to my mind “Life is what happens while you insist on doing the opposite, “I like your dress!

  15. The thought to where I’ll be from now and what I wanna do with the rest of my life scares me so much too. I end up worrying about it more than I should. I think it’s not about getting there though. It’s more important to focus on where you are now and enjoy going through all your experiences. I’m trying to not think about it as much as I always do and just go with the flow and live my life. Don’t worry too much and I never iron my clothes hehe. Your outfit still looks fab!! 🙂 xx

    NIKIMINT

  16. Honestly, I don’t think anyone ever gets it all figured out… I’m 26 and I’ve been married for 5 years, but I still feel like I’m a teenager most of the time and that’s kind of weird. When I think about my 16-year-old self, I realize that I haven’t really changed that much (at all) and I start thinking “what if I never really grow up and become a proper adult who hosts dinner parties and always wears perfectly ironed clothes”? 😀

    Bella Pummarola

    1. I always thought being married was an adult thing – you’re 2 years younger than me and you’ve been married 5 years??? I just can’t comprehend that!

  17. Such a lovely post and outfit. You look so pretty! <3 I'm 20 and I'm turning 21 in a few months. I thought I had everything figured out when I reached 18 – the career and the things that I want to do with my life. But when I reached 20, I struggled from quarter life crisis. I have no idea what I want right now. #TheStruggleIsReal =))

  18. I couldn’t agree more! I often wonder what has happened to all the years behind me – the time just flies by faster and faster with each year I swear! I had to laugh at your comment about thinking the 16 year old girls were full adults when you were 11 and now seeing children when you see 16 year olds! So true – I always think the same thing.

    Also, I really love this ASOS dress. And that belt? It’s amazing! I’d love to add it to my wardrobe 🙂

    Carly x

  19. This is such a pretty dress! Very flattering too 🙂 I’ve decided I think less than 5% of the population know what they’re doing with their life. I’m going to make sure each year I have something to look back on and be glad I did, that’s what I want to do.

    India / Touchscreens & Beautyqueens

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  21. I’ll admit, I’m developing quite the complex about getting old and not having time to do all the things I want. Mostly because I want to do then now and I don’t want to wait, but I said I’d wait for the bf and i also should finished my phd too 🙁
    Its definitely to do what not knowing what I wanted to do or thinking I knew and it all turning to shit and now I feel like I feel know what I want to do and I’m still stuck in something I don’t want to do waiting.

    See, it’s a complex / highly irrational fear haha

  22. I know exactly how you feel! I’m in my late twenties and I feel no closer to being a grown up then when I did in my teens!

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