It’s easy to get caught in that place of doom. Especially during the long, winter months when everything is so dark and cold.
When I was younger, I would embrace the sadness and sometimes even inspire it with sad music and wine, reading and writing poetry into the early hours of the morning about how stuck I felt.
I was always a big believer in letting myself feel everything. I didn’t realise at the time that I wasn’t doesn’t anything other than letting myself wallow on uneasy ground while the sadness just swelled inside.
I’ve spent a long time perfecting how to stay emotionally balanced, I’d be lying if I said I’ve got it down to a tee, but through trail and error I’m getting there.
Here are some ways that I catch myself when I feel a little down.
How to cheer yourself up.
1. Listen to upbeat music.
While it might be tempting to listen to Sinead O’Connor’s Nothing compares to you really loud on repeat with a bottle of wine, it’s not going to do anything other than make you want to cry over how horrible your life is.
I know I can really think myself into a black hole of death if I allow myself to listen to sad songs, so stick some upbeat songs on and be uplifted.
Some of my favourites are:
- We the kings: Just keep breathing.
- AWOLNATION: Sail.
- Imagine Dragons: On top of the world.
- Purity Ring: Fineshrine.
- Kids of 88: Tucan
- Danna Richards: Where you are
- The Orion Experience: Obsessed with you.
- The Postal Service: Such great heights.
I find that this can really life my mood and make me feel energised and ready to carry on with my day.
2. Spend time with my friends.
When I’m feeling low, I get the urge to avoid all people. I’ll happily hide away for days to avoid talking to anyone. I find if I spend some time with friends, it can really help.
The first step to this is the hardest – I put on a brave face which seems a little fake and like a lot of effort, but before I know it I’m smiling for real and I forget how I was feeling before.
This doesn’t have to be an expensive night out, but just a trip to the pub, a movie or games night or just sitting in the company of others while you’re watcting TV. It helps – I promise.
3. Write it out.
Some things go around and around in my head. I feel like they’ll never stop and I can’t seem to let go of them. Opening up a text document and just typing out what’s bothering me or how I’m feeling somehow manages to quieten my thoughts.
It’s almost as if I’m slowly letting it go through writing – pulling each word and feeling out of my head and onto a screen where I can save it and close it down when I’m done.
For some reason after doing this, I no longer feel the need to analyse it over and over again in my head as it helps me to organise my thought processes and get a bit of logic back into my life!
4. Message an old friend on Facebook.
It’s good to catch up – and talking to an old friend on Facebook is a great way to cheer yourself up. You can find out what they’ve been up to and share the fun things you’ve been up to lately.
It’s a way to trick yourself into remembering the good things in your life, as well as having a catch up.
You cold also call, text or e-mail if you’re too cool for Facebook.
This is a bit of a cliche, but this works. Going for a run ALWAYS puts me in a good mood. Even if I have to push myself to get out of the door and there are moments during it I just want to quit.
The happy hormones released during exercise can lift your spirits – as well as give you that feeling of working off any stress.
6. Shower and get dressed.
I could happily sit around all day in my PJs some days, but if I’m not feeling in a fantastic mood, it can make me feel sluggish and low.
The best way to get over this is to shower and get dressed, even if you’re not going anywhere. Even put on some make-up – by looking good on the outside, this can help the perception of how you feel on the inside.
What do you do to cheer yourself up?