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#socialbloggers 22 – Blog You vs Real You

blog you vs real you

Well this was one of my favourite #socialbloggers chats ever. We spoke about the way you portray yourself on your blog. 

I guess it can be a very tricky thing to answer and I am sure there are various opinions on how you should portray yourself and your life online.

I think there is a big difference between pretending you are something you’re not and protecting your private life. I’m sure most people will portray a better version of themselves, or at least, themselves when they are at their best. 

I know I’ve had hard times while I’ve been blogging, really fucking horrible times to be honest. Personal problems, work problems, relationship problems and general life problems and I’ve never spoken about them on my blog. I’ve got on with my posts as usually acting like nothing was wrong. Nobody would ever know, apart from a few of you who I talk to privately. 

That’s not because I’m faking who I am.

It’s just like how I went to work on each of those shitty days and got on with my job like nothing was wrong. 

There are just some things about me and some problems I face that I don’t want people to know about. Whether online or offline. 

I try to keep to one rule when it comes to my blog:

Never post anything you wouldn’t want your Mum, manager or work colleagues to read. 

There have been times when I’ve been on the fence about talking about some issues, but have always backed out. It can be a very brave and liberating thing to be open and honest about certain topics, but if doing so makes you feel on edge, nervous or feel too exposed, then don’t do it. If it doesn’t feel right, then don’t post it. Once it is out there, then it’s easily available for anyone to read. It can be copied, tweeted, e-mailed, sent to friends, others and all sorts. You need to be sure you’re okay with that.  

I try to ensure that everything I post, I wouldn’t mind being read by any of my staff, friends or family.

Apart from any personal problems, I am pretty much myself. I’m just a person at the end of the day and I have bad habits, I sleep too much and don’t clean my room as often as I should. I’m really shit at removing those cardboard tubes from finished toilet rolls from the bathroom. I take about 30 outfit photos to pick only 4. I get drunk and make a fool of myself and I promise to lose weight but I often find it difficult.

I’m silly, I’m giddy, I’m intelligent, I’m awkward, I’m creepy, I’m easily frustrated and I take jokes too far.

Who are you?  

Q1: Do you feel an expectation to ‘be’ a certain way on your blog? #socialbloggers

Q2: Are the things you wish you could talk about but think you shouldn’t?

Q3: Is the ‘blog version’ of you different from the ‘real you’? 

Q4: Do you think the ‘top bloggers’ set the tone for how others think they should be?

Q5: What makes your blog unique? 

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1. noun: a female blogger that writes about her own experiences, observations and opinions. 2. verb: to act like a complete idiot or to do something stupid. e.g: She did a Corinne.

24 Comments

  • Natalia

    It’s a very good subject to discuss or simply remember… I tend to mix a little bit of something personal with my love for fashion and everything that’s happening because, at the end, all these events influence me and make me who I am. I don’t see the point of pretending to be somebody else, not only because it’s a bit schizophrenic, but also because sooner or later people are going to feel it… After all people are more attracted to uniqueness rather than perfection and cliches. 🙂

    • Corinne

      You’re right, you don’t want to put anything out that than will cause backlash. Unless that’s what you want.

  • Imogen

    Best post, this sure is an important topic for us. I am definitely myself and honest but probably a more outgoing version of myself. In real life I get too shy. It’s interesting you write about the difference between not being fake/protecting your privacy. That is about finding the right balance. That’s why I recently wrote about my depression which is very personal but I felt like I was living a lie if I came across happy all time. I definitely don’t think we need to reveal all our secrets but I needed to put it out there even just occasionally.

    • Corinne

      It’s fine to talk about depression etc if you don’t mind others knowing. Because I’ve meet up with some bloggers in real life too it makes me feel a bit weird about being so open too!

  • pilar domínguez

    I agree with your rule. I don´t like posting about my personnal life , I just talk about my style and anecdotes which have to do with fashion. There is a huge difference between me blogger and me real. I am a very simple , pragmatic person but I love posting pictures with my outfits. Kisses:)

  • Amy

    I’m finding my feet at the moment so i’m sure i’ll figure out eventually what works and doesn’t work for me. I would rather be completely honest however I think your rule is a good one. My sister reads mine and as you say anyone could get a hold of your blog so you do need to be careful. I guess if anyone want’s to be completely honest but doesn’t want to share for the above reasons there’s nothing stopping them sharing with a few close friends via email like you said.
    Amy
    amynmore.blogspot.co.uk

  • sgrmse.

    i never restrict myself when it comes to writing, lol. ironically, i believe that’s the whole essence of why people should write. we already put up so many façades & wear so many different masks in living out “real life”— when it comes to writing, nobody should ever self-censor because being human means having real emotions & it’s totally okay to vent/confide. idk. just my opinion on the matter anyway.

  • Lucy

    My blog is my escapism where I write about the things I love not having to conform to what people expect but where I can be myself. A really interesting discussion and I think there is no right or wrong do what makes you happy Lucy x

  • June

    I’m pretty honest too. But totally agree with your rule of not writing things keeping mom, colleagues and stuff in mind. The only thing I don’t post about is my relationships as my boyfriends have never been keen on making an appearance. Of course, none of them lasted, only my blog did 🙂 haha
    xx
    http://www.JuneWantsItAll.com

  • Kendwy @mindofkiwi

    Saw my tweet! Yaaaay! Thanks for sharing <3
    It really was such a great chat! I hadn't been able to attend in a while and I am so glad I made it to this one.

  • hena tayeb

    that is a great topic and I loved reading other people’s responses..
    But I agree with what you said, I do not post anything that I don’t want my parents or even friends reading, I don’t share pictures that may embarrass my kids.. nothing humiliating i mean.. everything I do will one day embarrass them! I believe some things are private.. I also try to stay away from the negative. I will not blog about a fight between M and I. etc.

  • Olivia

    Great topic to read about! I guess I would have to say that I really try to bring my voice into my writing. Personally, I like to take a little bit of time writing my posts. I think that it is important to create a specific voice in your writing-crack a joke, tell a story, etc because it’s like an insight to the blogger herself.To me, that makes the blogger more personable and easier to connect to. I really hope that my true colors shine through my blog-style, writing, etc- because in the long run, that’s where I will gain loyal followers.
    Loved reading this post and also, wanted to say congrats on you 10K! Good for you, that’s amazing:)
    Lots of Love,
    Olivia

  • A Very Sweet Blog

    I always think long and hard about what I post. I think we all keep things away from our readers. This was a beautiful post Corinne.

  • char

    I definitely agree with keeping my personal life away from my blog. That said, the whole reason I began my blog was as an emotional outlet as I was coming out of a really dark time. I haven’t ever really mentioned that since the start, though and now, 5yrs later, I guess I’d feel a bit odd bringing it all back up again.

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