There are loads of tips online on how to live a happier life, for bringing yourself out of a funk – weather big, nor small. But they’re all so samey. Get enough sleep, exercise, have a bath.
But do these actually help?
The biggest obstacle, the hardest obstacle, comes before that. That is – actually wanting to feel better about your situation.
That might sound silly. Of course we all want happiness, Corinne, you stupid dumb head! But how many of us have locked ourselves away to wallow in our self pity? Laid in bed and listened to the saddest songs to reflect your mood? Drank a bottle of wine and over analysed everything that is wrong in your life and then sobbed over how things could have been.
I’d be surprised if I was alone here.
It wasn’t until I was around 26 that I actually started to realise something that would change how I coped with sadness for the rest of my life.
That something is – you can control it. To an extent.
And seems really hard, it feels impossible, but you can turn a bad day into a happy one by making the right choices.
You can be in the middle of a terrible day and decide STOP. This is enough. I’m not going to let this ruin the rest of my day!
That is the hardest part, I think.
I don’t know about you, but I proper love a moan.
I’ve had such a terrible day, listen to all the things that have gone wrong and pat me on the head and say ‘oh dear, that is a terrible day, you must feel horrible’ and then I can say ‘yes, I do feel horrible. Thanks for validating my bad mood.’
They call it venting. They say it helps. They say it’s key. But I end up more worked up than ever. I think the idea of venting is good – that you say what’s bothering you and then let it go – but I’m not so good at the letting go part. I vent myself silly until I’m so worked up I want to flip a mother fucking table and punch someone in the face.
So yes, before we’ve even started thinking what uplifts us, I think we’ve established that we first want to be uplifted.
So if you’ve got that part down and you’re ready to change your mood, then let’s move on.
Things that uplift me when I’m down.
This list is the things that make me feel better when I’m having a great day. I’m sure everyone is different, so let’s have a look at what works for me and maybe you can tell me what works for you 🙂
Going to the gym.
Going to the gym helps more probably more than anything else. There have been times when I’ve been really angry and I’ve just gone to the gym and ran as fast as I can for as long as I can. Or I’ve lifted weights until my arms feel like they’re dropping off.
After a long, intense workout, I feel really accomplished and good about myself. The loud, upbeat music in the gym also helps. As well as being surrounded by people – even if I’m not talking to them. It’s a total distraction.
Also if I feel proper pants about my body. I can feel like the fattest person in the world, then a few days at the gym, my perception of my body seems to change even if my weight hasn’t. I’m still the same size but I feel better, I feel stronger, I feel fit and that I’m doing something good for my body. It helps.
Taylor Swift, Frozen, Sia – music that is powerful and has a great beat to it really helps. I especially like the Sia type of music which is all I AM INDEPENDENT WOMEN HEAR ME ROAR. It makes me feel unstoppable.
There’s also an album by Iron and Wine, The Creek Drank the Cradle, that always puts me in a better mood. It reminds me of a really peaceful time in my life. Probably the first time I tried to make myself feel better when things weren’t going well. If I stick that on, I feel really free.
Go out with friends.
Last thing I want to do when I’m in a bad mood is talk to people. When I’m in a mood, I just want to be alone. But I find if I spend time with people, I slowly start to forget about everything and just have fun. It does take time and I can be a bit quiet at first!
Watch something funny.
Whether it’s a comedy TV show, or a stupid video on YouTube, watching something that makes me laugh really changes my mindset.
Making someones day.
Yes! This! Even if it’s just telling someone they look nice and seeing them smile back at you, it can make a massive difference to my mood to see that something I have done or said has made someone happy.
Yes, time to change those bedsheets and get into a clean bed to go to sleep on a high note and wake up on one.
What do you do when you’re not feeling great about life?