Some take away your power, make it seem like you’re doubting yourself. Others paint you in a negative light and make you appear stressy, unapproachable and a bit miserable. Some just make you look like a knob.
Let’s take a looksi.
When you’re about to be a dick:
Okay, so when you say any of the following, YOU NEED TO STOP and think about what you’re about to say. Is it really necessary? Because you’re probably going to be a dick. Or sarcastic. Or bitchy. Or say something not nice.
Saying these phrases have become a habit for a lot of us. But what usually follows or proceeds the sayings is something negative. And negativity breeds negativity.
I know when I’m having a moan and a vent, I might think I’m getting my feelings out there to let go, but most of the time I just rant myself silly until I’m so wound up I hate the world.
Whereas if you say something positive or talk about how good something is, or say something nice about someone, even if they’re not there, I feel uplifted and happy.
These phrases that mean you’re probably going to be a dick are:
- I’m not being funny, but..
- Nobody asked me, but..
- I don’t mean to be rude, but..
- I know it’s nothing to do with me, but..
If you have a valid point to make, then just say it in a constructive way, taking note of who is around at the time and decide whether it’s something that should be said on a one-on-one basis, directly to the person.
When you’re doubting yourself:
We need to be more confident with our opinions and ideas. Saying the phrases below can show you’re not sure of yourself and your idea.
Believe in yourself, state your facts directly! You’re proper powerful 😉
- This might sound stupid but..
- I might be wrong, but..
- I’m not sure, but..
- I’m going to ask a stupid question..
When you’re at work:
Whatever position you’re in at work, you need to be mindful of how you come across. Many phrases, which are probably the first thought that pops into your head, will have you labelled as a negative employee or leader who isn’t open to change and who is not willing to listen to new ideas, easier ways of working or up for the challenge of solving problems.
- I can’t do that.
- That’s not my job.
- Just get it done.
- It won’t work.
- I already knew that.
- I’ll try.
- We’ve always done it this way.
Saying the above is not only going to make you come across as a negative nelly, but you’re already convincing yourself that you can’t complete a task, or this idea is a bad one, before you’ve even tried.
Now, let’s be a bit more positive.
Are there any phrases you avoid saying?